When is the need to being validated good and healthy?
We have a connection with the people on this planet. It may be family members, close friends or people we haven't met yet. These people will make some kind of impact on our lives and we impact theirs. As these relationships occur, we start to care what they think. This is validation and in healthy relationships it can be good. It can keep us be accountable for our actions, it can help overcome personal resistance and obstacles, it can help us make important decisions.
When we are working overcoming major resistance or addictions in our lives some of us might need help in staying accountable. Some of us choose coaches, counselors, good friends, or sponsors or all of them to help us stay true to ourselves.
The need for being validated should never over run the need to be true to yourself. Deep down inside you know what is best for you but look to those that remind you of your true self. Those are the people you want when you are being resistant.
Great points in this post, and it is very freeing when the 'over' need to being validated goes away. It can be all consuming wondering and worrying about what people think.
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