A Challenge to Find Simplicity

The Secret #2 A Friend In Deed

Resistance by You University Life Coach, Savina Cavallo

What is this thing we call resistance?
I'm experiencing resistance in several areas of my life. Such as, resistance:

* to taking the actions needed to move forward and grow my Life Coach practice;
* to allowing myself to try out new things;
* to exercising consistently and not eat sweets daily!

I know these actions are in my best interest, yet even though I know and get excited about them, I don't realize them. I feel I let myself down and I feel awful.
Where does this resistance come from? Why am I doing this? I don't really know. Yet. I do know it's there and I don't like it. Should I resist resistance? No. I prefer to learn from it and find the answers to these questions...answers that are within me. I've been journaling and working with my life coach to arrive at a place of understanding and acceptance.
One good thing is I'm growing in self knowledge. I now know I have resistance to the good that's for me. I was unaware of this. I want to learn from it, as it has been a part of me...a learned response to something deeper that is beginning to surface (fear?).

To The Top Tuesday

Good Validation Overcoming Resistance

When is the need to being validated good and healthy?

We have a connection with the people on this planet. It may be family members, close friends or people we haven't met yet. These people will make some kind of impact on our lives and we impact theirs. As these relationships occur, we start to care what they think. This is validation and in healthy relationships it can be good. It can keep us be accountable for our actions, it can help overcome personal resistance and obstacles, it can help us make important decisions.

When we are working overcoming major resistance or addictions in our lives some of us might need help in staying accountable. Some of us choose coaches, counselors, good friends, or sponsors or all of them to help us stay true to ourselves.

The need for being validated should never over run the need to be true to yourself. Deep down inside you know what is best for you but look to those that remind you of your true self. Those are the people you want when you are being resistant.

Finding Balance

I am reminded today of appreciating opposites. I notice that people don't always appreciate what they have until it is gone. This can go with every aspect of your life. We don't truly appreciate pleasure until we have known pain. We don't love the sunshine until we have been stuck in the rain.

This world reacts to these opposites by finding balance. We are all trying to find balance. As I write this the saying "moderation in all things" pops into my mind.

So how do we find balance with our opposites?
-Moderation in all things- As a recovering addict I know that things in excess can cause great harm. Excess of anything goes against our bodies wanting to find balance.

-Self awareness - Being intuitive of our bodies and our feelings can give us clues as to when we might feel out of balance.

-Self Care -One of the biggest lessons that I have learned through life coaching is concerning self care. Caring for ourselves helps us find balance. Especially, if we have not done the first two suggestions.