Adrienne Summer
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Oprah Interview withJohn of God by Crystal Church
Monday, November 15, 2010
Self Confidence By Maia Berens You University Creator
Is Self Confidence Elusive For You?
Boost Your Self Confidence
Self confidence is all about how you feel towards yourself and how confident you are in your life and the situations you encounter. High self esteem means you truly love yourself and who you are inside.
For example,
- I know I am a truly good person.
- I know I wish everyone well. I also know I am an authentic person.
- I know there is no big gap between what I think and feel about something or someone and how I act.
I love those qualities within myself. I very much like who I am as a person.
Self confidence may change on a regular basis depending on the things that are happening in your life on a daily basis. The change could even be linked to not enough sleep or having a very stressful few days or even hours. Everyone has good days and bad days but if most of your days tend to be bad and you feel stuck where you are and not willing to try new things, you probably have low self confidence and, my guess is, you most likely know it. I suffered from low self confidence for years and I certainly knew it.
The good news is that you can build your self confidence but it will likely take time. With some work and a serious commitment there are techniques that you can use to build your own self confidence. You will find many of them on this site.
First you must commit to remaining positive. A positive attitude is crucial to the success of building your self confidence. Then you must stop listening to anything negative that you or anyone else says. And since this is mostly an inside job, the voices you have floating around in your head, are the most damaging or most beneficial. Good self messages sound positive. Low self esteem inner messages are negative, critical and have lots of shoulds in them.
1. Don’t allow yourself to compare yourself to other people. You are your own unique person with your own purpose for being here and it doesn’t matter what others do, say or accomplish. It has nothing to do with you – except as far as you let it run your life.
2. Associate with positive people.
3. Spend your time doing work and activities that you truly love.
4. Do not go over your past mistakes in your head. Forgive yourself and move on.
Start small and celebrate all of your successes. As time goes on, your small successes will become larger successes and you will be on the road to much higher self confidence and many more opportunities to be happy.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Friday, November 12, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Women Self Help by Maia Berens Founder of You University
Become Your Own Life Coach – Women Self Help
Women Self Help
When you find a buddy you have found:1. Someone who shares the joys and difficulties of growth along with you.
2. Someone who is totally interested in what you have to say.
3. Someone who will be able to see your growth and tell you what they see – many times even before you are aware of it yourself.
4. Someone who will tell you if you are tricking yourself or are in denial.
5. Someone who will be able to tell you if you are being true to your Real Self.
pg. 48 excerpt from Once Upon a Time There Was You: Three Magic Secrets to Finding Your Real Self
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Monday, November 8, 2010
WHY HURT? – Expressing Emotional Pain
Expressing Your Emotional Pain
Are you afraid of your feelings?
You could have looked at this subtitle and thought one of two things: “What’s the big deal? We all know how to deal with our feelings” or “Yes. I think my feelings are too big or to0 many or too scary”. For those with the second comment: sometimes when we find a challenge, like in addressing our emotional pain, their are benefits. Only, if we look.
I don’t know what it’s like in other states on other freeways but you’ve probably heard we have lots of traffic here in L.A.
Well, I’m scared of driving on the freeway and so I usually don’t unless someone else is driving. A couple of weeks ago my husband was driving in pretty heavy weekend traffic going south on the 405. Sometimes when we drive we chat about this and that (in between grousing about the traffic and drivers). This day we were chatting about how lucky we are to have been trained how to deal with our feelings and emotional pain when along comes a license plate saying WHY HURT.
WHY HURT can mean more than one thing. It can mean:
- First- “You don’t have to hurt” and I agree with that. We can make a choice. Unfortunately, many think they can’t, but still, WHY HURT?
- Second (this is the reason it struck me so)- A reason to feel hurt (if you are really in touch with your feelings and know how to let them flow as they were meant to) could mean you are on your way to healing your emotional pain. HURT is milder than ANGER, on it’s way to having one know their FEARs and a bit closer to LOVE and FORGIVENESS.
So I ask you: “Why hurt?” you are so close to being in a place of love and forgiveness. Why not learn and move on and become that much closer with yourself? In the pursuit of not feeling our feelings, at the very least we become disconnected from ourselves and have problems relating to others deeply and well. Why hurt?